You’ve noticed that for the last three nights that your spouse has had to work late. When they are home they are distant and always have other things on their minds. They go to the computer as soon as they can after they get home, another silent dinner awaits you. Why the change? Could it be someone new is in the wind? Do you really think your spouse could be cheating on you? But how do you find out without being so obvious.
Use the phone and let your fingers do the walking. Our lifeline is the phone and every day it becomes more of a common thread in our lives. So if there is anything going on it should show up on their cell phone. Check it out and make sure. If you have a land line that you think they are using you can listen in to the call using another jack or just get a copy of the bill and all the calls.
Another way to check on things is to check the computer. Did you know that you can have a copy of every email or conversation that your spouse sends online can be sent to you? There is software today called remote spy software that can record all web sites visited, instant messages, chats and emails even down to the keystrokes and copies this information and you can have it sent to your email address. If your spouse is not so careful you can look at the history on their computer and follow along on their ride that they think is so much greener on the other side. If they catch on to what you are doing and start changing passwords, do a Google search and find software that can be used to hack passwords. Be creative.
To catch a cheater isn’t really hard. To find proof of your spouse’s infidelity will be rewarding for both of you in the long run. The cheater never likes to be caught but once they are they will realize that it was for the best because there was a hole in the relationship. Now it may take them awhile to realize this but eventually they will.
These are some other ways to spy on your spouse:
• Use hidden cameras that come in any shape now and very discreet.
• Installing a GPS device that can track where the car has been.
• Keep the mileage on the car and see how far they drive.
• You need to pay attention to who they are hanging out with.
• If your call history is blocked on your phone call the phone company and get it fixed.
• Changes in behavior are a true sign like changes in the way they dress, weight loss or gain, refusal to talk about future plans, disinterest in sex and everyday affections.
• Look for secrets they leave such as an additional phone, look in the trash can for numbers or notes. If you have really good suspicions you can have to go out of town for a night and follow them and take the camera with you. But be careful you don’t get caught. If they are clean it could cause a relationship to change.
This is a warning. If your problem turned out that you have paranoid jealousy and is not based on fact and your spouse finds out what you have done, you have probably done irreparable damage to your marriage and you should be seen by a licensed psychologist. You may find out things you really didn’t want to know after all. The way you use the spy gadgets can or cannot violate the privacy of the others. Sometimes for this reason it is better to hire someone that knows the laws. The hacking of the software may be illegal as well as if you spy on them without their knowledge and gaining entry to their computer could be considered illegal.
If you really think your spouse is cheating but can’t find anything on them and you want to continue to find out you might want to check out the infidelity investigation of a private company. That may cost you but it might be worth it. They have special ways to find out whose shoes are staying under whose bed.